Egos dont care what the external package looks like. Need help with your relationship? Learn how your comment data is processed. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. He's in good form from the minute he wakes up (unlike me). You might be unwittingly putting distance between yourself and your partner by being too busy. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. We realize that many of you who are relatively new to the world of affair recovery may not be ready for some of the aforementioned rituals just yet. Its a vicious cycle I see repeated on many blogs. Anonymous. We've been married for almost 30 years and have 2 children, aged 16 and 18. Yup, I no longer want all the responsibility of doing it all, anymore. IMHO. In a vacation environment totally devoid of any stress, I couldn't stand to be in my husband's company. Im worthy f respect, from him and his family, he should stand by my every time his family disrespect me. So many affairs are blamed on boredom, Dougs included. My ex made out very well during the pre-trial. Donot tell him your every move. Actually.. Self-destruct, and take the easy way out. Cheated twice? However, some people are just habitually negative and don't understand how miserable they are making themselves as well as the . At the same time, dont neglect your own needs. When a wife insists on having her own way, she is in essence saying, "I have to be in control." 2. It makes me sick the lengths she went to, and I truly believe it was her manipulation, making him feel guilty for him being home with his family. " If dat new guy don't stop follin wit ma girl, ahm gon put a gree gree on him ." and we started dating. I tried to strike a balance and move the conversation in a different direction. The only activity I can get him to do is sit and eat at restaurants. If you want to close the gap, try making a regular date night where you can focus on each other without distractions. I want to see that worried look on my h face, but you know Im not sure I will see it, I was looking good while in his affair fog and he still told me I could lose more, I painted the whole house on my own and he put that down too, all while in the fog. I can see how my h would prefer to forget. Encourage and compliment your spouse. OMG my husband would think he had died and gone to heaven, LOL. It sucks. Admitting that, its natural if you have those sentiments and are furious at him. It just proves to me that I am not worth his commitment if it does. The real reason is that the person reached a point where they became so selfish that this activity became ok in their own eyes. There will be peace in it being OVER, pursuing it would likely not be worth the emotional cost. No, not perfectly but he COULD have asked for what he needed. Others blame their spouse ONLY. Besides, Im a fun person and I do like to do sh*t! I hate how uncomfortable and insecure this makes me feel in our marriage. It's like having a toddler. My h and I were the same, it was my h brokenness stress and depression, midlife crsis (he had these dreams of retiring at 40) too, we hadnt argued, I was loving, faithful and there for him, there was really no reason for this to happen to us. My husband doesnt try to do ANYTHING. Time for ME to start setting the bar for my OWN self-esteem and not basing it on HIS assessment of me. I shortly thereafter met Josh (he was actually my roommate!) This is bonding time. What about commitment as a daily choice? The problem isn't your job. You are correct that i t does not excuse your cheating, but it does point out where your personal vulnerability was. Blah blah blah. Fcol, its very tiresome, I guess we just have to focus on our h losing their way and were not strong enough to see their way clearly. Required fields are marked *, My Husband Never Wants To Do Anything With Me: 10 Reasons Why and What to Do About It, on My Husband Never Wants To Do Anything With Me: 10 Reasons Why and What to Do About It, Why Husband Blames Me For Everything: The Truth Behind Relationship Arguments, 11 Signs of Selfish Husband and How to Deal With Him. So Im so happy for you that you have your children. You might not see it, but your relatives can sometimes be quite overwhelming, especially if theyre always around. I feel like I need to turn into a stepford wife. Stacy Taniguchi grew up as a Buddhist in Hawaii and joined the Church so that he could marry his girlfriend who was a Latter-day Saint. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. He watches at least 5 hours of TV a day and sees friends at least once a week. If you two never go out anywhere together, then I would say that he's using you for sex (or hopes to soon). If we can love and forgive and we are both willing to work hard, I do believe it can be regained. Please make sure you read our rules here. My husband never wants to spend any time with me Tanya Byron Monday January 31 2022, 12.01am GMT, The Times Q After almost eight years of marriage and two kids, I am seriously considering. Its all about him and hes still in control! My husband never wants to go out and do things. If theres one thing that does not exist in a long-term marriage its that feeling of newness. EG, who is perfect, ohhh thats right the ow thats who. But you already know that, lol. I heard the boredom comment as well. His apathy is excruciating and I feel myself just shriveling up and blowing away in the wind. Particularly in a long term relationship. Im sure my husbands girl friend was skinny and she really does think she is superior based on that. Cuz if he doesn't communicate whatsoever, you're really just communicating with yourself. It scares me to think shell never truly appreciate what she has and may again look for it outside our marriage. So, if your husband is always working on projects around the house or taking care of the kids, he may be trying to show you how much he cares. He feels like he can't win. 1. Its also extremely exhausting and expensive. Make your moments together count. Wow I have been coming here for years. Exercise grace, this is exactly the kind of thing I was trying to get through to Eyes Opened about. At least you are trying. I was never bored. I handled it FAR better than he did, and I think I should be the one ranting and raving over how bad it made me feel. Often, men show their love through acts of service instead of words. She is also a very nasty person and looking like Miss America couldnt compensate for her internal self. Well, wow. He sounds more like an FWB if. All Rights Reserved. But I know one thing I wont go through this again kids or not Im better than that and dont deserve it. Empty nest for all of us is just around the corner. I used to have a higher regard for my wedding vows but these scars will unfortunately stay with me and so be it. Some people are able to deal with reaching those limits in a healthy way (seeking help, being honest, or even leaving) and others implode. Or well, our marriage had really drifted apart and I knew we were very disconnected. If anything, it is a great opportunity to spend quality time with single friends. He stops asking about your life. Just a little! No exceptions. 4) He doesn't know how to bring something up. And he had better think about how to mentally gird himself and decide how to react calmly to it. Everyone makes mistakes, and your husband is no exception. If someone's lack of response has become a. Of course my sister feels that he is getting exactly what he deserved, put himself in that position, etc. Linda claims it was the other two women that were doing all of the complaining (uh, huh) and the core complaints were that their husbands never wanted to do anything and were basically boring stick-in-the-muds. I know exactly how you feel. I should have kicked her out immediately and filed for divorce. Also, the 21st birthday of my oldest son. I have even pointed a few of these things out to my husband, and said.gee, what would you have done if I acted/spoke like THAT? And that choice requires both daily practice and unwavering commitment. 3. Sponsored by BeenVerified Just wanted to let you know I understand what youre going through, youre not alone! What to do if my husband never wants to do anything with me because of mental illness? During our false R, I too felt like a fool, like I was being used. I also remember a few years ago my husband saying he would honor his boring commitment. Guess The Turd does more interesting things like eat sushi, try to look phat and fresh, and try to be a hipster. Of course that was a trigger for me, and I told him that it was nice that he was focusing on how the whole thing made HIM feel, and totally ignored how gut wrenching it was for ME as she sat there describing a college boyfriend who cheated on her, and went on at length about how I have no idea the pain, the agony, the etc etcof being cheated on. He is always focused on himself. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to assist you. They can't find the words to properly articulate their feelings, an issue, or a problem. Its from Donna: I so agree..I had supported my husband for years while he went to school. I have often thought about why I dragged my feet too. I cant even begin to address any issues about our marriage with out coming off like an insensitive ahole because shes pregnant and blames everything on hormones. If anyone thinks they were lured, or tricked, or coerced, or anything else into cheating on your spouse then there is an issue. The 10 signs that your husband is not happy in your marriage 1. You endured much more than most would be able to. They just werent invested, and I believe it has to do with how they felt about themselves at the time. Saturday night we met up with two other couples who we consider to be some of our closest friends. He helps make meals or we dont eat. The affair has changed that for me. Im doing everything I can to bring the romance and passion back to our marriage while she acts miserable every day. The glue as our therapist says. Devoted my life to him and my children..worked at a job I hated for the money and where am I know? This is a really great article! Instead of demanding his time, try giving him some space to do what he enjoys. That is exactly what my husband did and he admits it. My husband is a person who has illness after illness. You might think, "I'm a good husband and father, I don't cheat, I'm not mean or abusive, and I'm a good provider financially. Over the years, she had torn down my self esteempiece by piece. The outcome is a husband who is detached and less interested in being around his wife. Not one bit. It had an article about trauma recovery that said basically you are healed when you can review the trauma in a non emotional way. This isnt personal its a symptom of their mental illness. They were also agitated, aggravated and fed up. I cant go on like this forever. Its in cases just like this that many people turn to infidelity in an ill-fated attempt to solve their boredom (or some other) problem. They were bored. I ask because I feel exactly the same way as you. My husband doesn t want to spend time with me, is it true? I'd go with an ultimatum: remind him you're not his servant, nor a . I am with him 24/7 365 and at 65 I have become his parent. Oh, I know, EG. He has no ideas, no desire to do simple fun or actively engage with me on anything. That was still intact. I am 62 and he is 70, maybe its his age. I believe that is why most BS wouldnt even think about entering an affair, really who had the time and energy. Yes! And Im but judging her about this, Im just commenting on it. Because he is home 24/7 the bills have increased. And not much of it was very good at all. Liz Pardue-Schultz and her husband Greg Schultz Silver Charm Photography Many people in relationships often feel obligated to accompany their partners to events they don't want to go to,. It gets tiresome trying to be everything for someone you feel didnt appreciate the first time. Great comment, I am just sorry that your wife didnt wake up and realize how lucky she was to have someone who was so committed to their marriage and family. All through his fog. Too painful and once I would start I wouldnt know where to stop! My dr had wanted me to start being on medication for depression but had also said things would be better if your h would change his attitude and start helping you, because this is why you are so depressed. they are dependent on those activities. But where is my security? i really dont mind cleaning, i used to clean the house for him all the . My husband doesn t like spending time with my family, but why? I dont know what to do any,more. Healthy communication is consistently cited as one of the most important elements of a successful marriage. First, that you need to be true to yourself and work towards the things that bring you the most joy in . When we first got together I was 16 and I definitely had a higher sex drive back then, as most 16 year olds probably do. The full 3 months have gone by and your dog has settled in. Like threatening to kill my cats, destroying my property, etc. I vent ONLY to my bff, who knows our story and my level of commitment to this relationship. Not exactly good party talk! My husband never wants to hang out and just spend time with me but then gets overly butthurt when we go more than a couple days without having sex. Its better that way. Below, psychologists and marriage therapists offer 7 common signs that a spouse may be growing restless in a relationship. Without getting into too much of the details and background, it is apparent to us that they have fallen into a serious marital trap. Also I am MUCH more aware of making even the slightest joke at his expense. Keep your chin up girl, we are all rooting for you! Absolutely 100%. If you find that he either makes decisions without your input, or he takes a course of action without your buy in, this is a massive sign of disrespect. BUT I am so happy that this is FINALLY coming to closure for you. I had a saying Lose the battle, win the war. Meaning the final outcome is in your favor cause you are done with them ! I really did want out but didnt see a way. Ayyy ahora si ya les cuento todito lo que pas De verdad que miedo It's a good way to keep a relationship alive. He had ti see her because it made her feel better, then when that wasnt working anymore, lets bring mummy dearest over from overseas to help her with her attempts at getting my h away from me. Were here to show you the right way to survive infidelity so that your marriage doesnt become some sort of statistic. He shaves maybe once a week, at most. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban. one of the bs excuses my wife made after her affair was how shed found new excitement. This will make him feel valued and appreciated and more likely to want to spend time with you so you wont complain: My husband never wants to do anything with me. You dont have to fake excitement about every little thing, but ask questions and express genuine curiosity about what hes passionate about. In contrast my H is in the worst shape hes ever been and for the first time I see him slightly worried about how he compares to the men I must see at the gym. Prayers for peace for you. Does that excuse me got cheating on him? One thing I have done in the past is move along too quickly, so I end up in Crap again. Yes, she says she feels remorse but she is still defensive about what she did. This is separate from and at times in spite of, others around me. We have two very young kids and both work high-pressure, full-time jobs. I feel none of it was appreciated and he has a sense of entitlement. If you are struggling to find a boyfriend OR can't get quality men to commit to you then read this post to find out why. Its not shallow to want to be with someone who desires you. Its called denial and justification and it is a POWERFUL thing. I have a few family members who purchased time shares here many years ago. Its not just you and him against the world. Your story proves my point. My parents were recent ly deceased, I had no money cause he would not work, and no where to go. As a result, I feel unimportant, invisible, and alone. I have to basically threaten with taking away screen time almost every time it is time to do something. If your husband used to spend a lot of time with you and now you complain: my husband never wants to do anything with me, it can be confusing and hurtful. While it IS true that there is not a marriage on this planet that could not benefit from better communication, increased date nights and focus on each other as a couple, etc, feel free to add your wants and needs.Cheating is WRONG. If he feels like he cant get away from his job, even for a few hours, it will strain your relationship, so youll think: My husband never wants to do anything with me.. Yes, it SUCKS the big one and I struggle to deal with the profound disappointment, frustration and anger towards him and I dont like myself anymore because Ive lost respect for him and Im irritable all the time. In fact, that is one of the explanations we have for one our friends. He was slightly above a dead-beat. I dont husband bash has either. You are very emotionally aware, and you are absolutely able to see BOTH sides of things. He lied to her, manipulated her, made her promises he didnt keep. I don't think . If you focus on his negative qualities, itll only push him away. if we do go to a wedding as it is an obligation he will sit and not speak to anyone and always wont to leave early. Real boyfriends take their girlfriends out on dates. Apparently its not caused by lack of love at all, but probably more likely due to the lack of newness, adventure and passion. Im in the best shape of my life and I blame the dirtbag she affaired with for that, not that hes better looking than me by any means, but the second I picture his face and dream about ripping him limb from limb my workouts get very intense. Growing up the worst thing I could say to my mother is that I was bored. I know now that the only sure thing in this world I can depend on is myself. Now he helps make the bed every morning or it doesnt get made. The lack of attention you are receiving from your husband could possible be due to his attraction to someone else. He never wants to go anywhere, do anything or even really spend time together. Weve been married 42 years. If your husband feels like he cant get a break from them, itll start to take a toll on him, and he might begin distancing himself from you. He often jokes about leaving his wife. One of the main signs of a disrespectful husband is when he never ever asks your opinion on anything. Your email address will not be published. but thats not our problem. I dont think we should ever let ourselves fall into the boredom trap either, but I am so tired (as the betrayed spouse) of feeling like I need to become a one woman circus to keep the interest going. We saw therapists through the years but nothing changed. If I interrupt the tv he gets annoyed. Yes I did everything to make his life comfortable not so much now. I work full time and my husband has been retired for 10 years. Two years ago he was an ER physician, today he spent 10 minutes trying to figure out how to open the refrigerator. His demeanour physically / the way he moves is gentle and measured. My spouse is: old, fat, boring, lazy, doesnt like sex, doesnt love me, harsh, critical, unappreciative, ugly, jealous, nagging, a shrew, etc. What are some things that you do to try and keep the passion alive and kicking? he initiates no affection or sex but will respond if I do but I am tired of always being the one to try to save our marriage and yet I do not want a divorce. He probably lies to his wife all the time telling her he's going to take her places and then never follows through. Use that time to bond with him, leash-train and you should be good. All bans in this subreddit are permanent. Two key things: our passion and our principles. Trash is its own reward. This can lead to him wanting to distance himself from you, which isnt good for your relationship. In many cases, it may be that your spouse is feeling overwhelmed or emotionally isolated. All he ever wants to do is sit on the couch and watch TV. Not that Im interested one bit. Problem is, is that when I do, he texts or calls me frequently asking when Ill be home. Stop thinking that your way is the "right" way. Compliment him on things he does well, and express gratitude for you. See he would watch me falling and he would hold his hand out to her to help her up. While your situation isnt unique, it is nevertheless not typical. I was tiresome and costing me a fortune! I am exhausted and depressed most of the time. First, to the antisocial spouse (or person whose wife is saying "My husband has no friends or hobbies,") you might not think this is a big problem. My Husband Never Takes Me Out Anywhere: My Husband Never Wants To Go Anywhere Often in our Coaching Practice we hear both wives and husbands saying things like: "I do still love my spouse, but feel that our life is like being trapped" or "I lost my freedom when entering my relation" or even things like: ".our life is not bad but boring." 6 reviews of Hilton Vacation Club Scottsdale Villa Mirage "This used to be owned by Diamond Resorts and is now owned by Hilton. . I agree that, for me, its my commitment to God, first and foremost. Arent all of you lucky:). Try not to take it personally if he seems distant. even if it was my high school boyfriend that I felt was my true love at the time? And here are 9 ways you can escape awkward conversations . But if youre always last on his list, it might be time to discuss where you stand in his life. Gradually, he's changed, and his hygiene has gotten worse and worse. SHOW NOTES To see pictures of Stacy on some of his many climbing . I dont live with her, I am not trying to make a life and raise a family with her. unless he goes to work doesnt want to go out at all but will sometimes . She was not invested like I was. It can only be inspired. Ok fine. And honestly I have done that at times. ALWAYS. On the contrary, everyone needs quality time with their loved ones. There is one of three reasons . Its so true, if my h wants to choose slutty over me, then go right ahead, I deserve better in my life and my expectations are much higher, I deserve so much better, as we all do. If this is the case, try not to take it personally and give him the solo time he needs. Spending quality time together is a desirable trait in every marriage and shouldnt be compromised. If youve gained a lot of weight, let your hair go gray, or stopped caring about your appearance, its possible your husband no longer finds you attractive. I hope that eventually you can look back on your marriage and not look at it as wasted time. I had almost no confidence left by the time I discovered her cheating. I however am back to working full time at our business since he practically decimated it with his affair partner working there so I dont have much time or inclination to be the perfect homemaker he used to be married to. I value your opinion so I really appreciate your comments. What to do if my husband doesn t want to spend time with me? Im exhausted and burned out. We never get invited out anywhere together as a couple. But I, like you, intensely feel like the decades of marriage, taking care of everything (house, kids, social life and working myself), has led me nowhere. So, if you think this might be the explanation for the issue my husband never wants to do anything with me, make an effort to lose weight, get a new haircut, or buy some new clothes. Yes, this is selfish behavior but we ALL have our emotional limits. or situations/content involving minors. That is a rough thing to admit, but doing so frees me of any thought that any cheater isnt responsible for his or her actions. Alternately, the affair partner wants to place the blame on the cheating spouse. If this is a recent development, you may be wondering what went wrong and how to fix it. It is possible your husband could be having a physical, sexual affair with another woman or possibly an emotional. I think I need to do the same, start giving myself the self respect and stop basing it on my h assessments of me. Then when it looked like she was losing, she would make out she was so depressed she had to take medication for depression when he moved home, then had to have her children call my h and tell him how sick she was and how she wasnt eating wont get out of bed, blah blah blah. If hes unwilling to make any changes, you might have to accept that this is how things are and find ways to occupy your time when hes busy with other things. I have said to him more than once that I dont know who I am anymore. Eg, its funny you commented about being a step ford wife, lol. I was busting my ass and kissing hers at the same timeeven after the magnitude of her betrayal. Pisses me off too. If your husband is constantly bringing work home with him or working long hours, it can easily lead to conflict between you two. When you and your spouse are talking, put down your cell phone, set aside distractions, and focus on each other. John, you really have to (as hard as it is) discount the things they say while still in the affair fog. This can make him feel resentful and unwilling to spend time with you. No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Not a legacy to be proud of. This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. Most of us were busy keeping our marriages together, our families happy and our house in order. Donna, he may indeed suffer from depression. 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